She accepts dates, but often cancels at the last minute with lame excuses. She says pick her up at 7:00, but makes you wait until 8:00 while she dresses (and drinks her first two glasses of wine). She returns your kisses and sleeps with you, then doesn’t return your calls for the next two weeks. She cries about her financial woes, takes your money, then tells you that she’s gone back to her old boyfriend. Who is this woman? She’s the Heartbreak Princess. Here’s how to land this charming lass: If she’s hot, don’t look past that to discern character; […]
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On Monday night’s episode of The Bachelor, Brad had the arduous task of meeting all four womens’ families. At the end, he sent Sheena home, to her surprise and dismay. Earlier, Sheena had gushed about how wonderful their connection was, convinced that Brad was falling in love with her. And why not? After all, he gave her the most amazingly romantic date experience ever just a few days earlier, complete with gown, diamond earrings, a musical ensemble playing in the background, and dancing under starry skies. Add all those things up, and it looks like love is blooming. Now, imagine the sound […]
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Max has difficulty with women. He’s cute and charming, so he never has trouble getting women to go out with him. Once they do, however, the problems start. The women he falls for always have issues the he feels compelled to try and fix. He exhausts himself trying to get their lives to work at the expense of his own life. Max is a love addict. Love addiction is a serious problem. For men, the way it manifests is usually different than the way it shows up for women. How many of these behaviors look familiar to you? If more than half […]
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You can’t rehabilitate a wounded girl by loving her. James found out the hard way through two years of turmoil with Brianna. She was gorgeous, even did some modeling at one point. But what really sucked James in was her pain. Brianna had a long history of abuse that began in childhood and continued with every guy she dated. James wanted desperately to show her that love, his love, could change her life. Brianna was unstable at work, so jobs seemed to slip through her fingers. She was terrible with money – she didn’t earn nearly enough for the lifestyle she […]
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When should you start dating again? The answer is, of course, it depends. It depends on how much emotional baggage you want to drag forward into your new relationship. The more baggage you have (steamer trunks vs. carry on), the less likely you are to have a loving, lasting relationship in the future. If you are the Dumper, your baggage is more likely to be in the form of unresolved guilt and either over or under-responsibility. Because leaving can be so hard, some people emotionally shut down or cut off real communication in order to move forward. This coping mechanism, while it […]
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In every breakup there are two roles: the Dumper and the Dumpee. Put it another way, the person who actually says “I’m outta here” and the person who is left behind. Sometimes we try to save face by agreeing that yes, it’s over, when the other person says they’re leaving. But almost always there is one person who is the first to throw in the towel emotionally. That person usually faces one set of emotions while the other person usually faces a different set of emotions. If you threw in the towel first, you are more likely to experience guilt. Dumpers […]
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Are you a guy who treats women with respect? Are you a guy who understands the value of courtship, who rolls out the full-court-press when you’re intentional about a woman? Have you done so in the past, only to be treated with some or all of the following: You plan ahead, call ahead, make reservations, show up five minutes in advance, wait in your car until exactly the time, walk to her door, ring the bell, and she answers the door with her cell phone to her ear, waves you in, and continues talking while still getting ready. 20 minutes […]
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If you want to stand out in the dating scene guys, a good place to start is to pay attention to your first date behavior. The following are things NOT to do if you want to impress a woman. These examples come from real dating stories, believe it or not. If you want to impress a woman, don’t: Show up on first dates in blue jeans Ask her if you can wipe your wet hands (from your drink glass) on her skirt After you meet via dating service, wait two weeks to call and ask for a date Wait until Thursday or […]
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Dating is relating. The way you date and pursue a woman today has everything to do with how successful you will be in marriage. If your goal is to meet and marry a beautiful, loving woman, start today with shaping your behavior to maximize your success. Do these things and you’ll stand out in the dating scene because so few men understand the basics in today’s world. Some vital tips, in addition to basic rules of etiquette, include: Take emotional risks. Open your heart, gradually, not all at once. Tell your life story, the CNN version, with a slant toward the positive: […]
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Kissing for the first time is a significant step in a relationship. I don’t mean the lip peck or the cheek peck; I mean full-blown, lips and tongues, passionate kissing, the kind that melts paint. Guys need to know when the timing is right for that first kiss, and the precussor to right timing is doing a personal inventory. First, what is your goal? Are you dating women just to score some physical intimacy? Are you dating to get laid? If so, I don’t have any advice for you except this: look at the big picture of your life and […]
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Rebecca couldn’t believe her date with Joe ended so badly. He did many things right, but the one thing he did wrong overshadowed everything else. It was cold that night, so they left the restaurant and agreed to sit in her car for a few minutes to wind down their conversation. Suddenly, he reached over, took her face in his hands, and gave her a big, tongue-probing kiss. She was so shocked she didn’t know what to do, but her body reacted by pulling away. What was wrong with Joe’s kiss? Kissing at the end of a date is a […]
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