“I’ve Got the Brains, You’ve Got the Looks. Let’s Make Lots of Money”: The Pet Shop Boys Weren’t too Far Off
By Nina Atwood
Now there’s a web site specifically for the rich or beautiful. Not the rich AND beautiful, a significant item to note. If you are beautiful and you want to date someone rich, this may be for you. If you are rich and you want to date someone beautiful, here’s your avenue. But wait – could there be something amiss here?
Aiming for beauty is the wrong target. Aiming for wealth (in another person) is the wrong target. Simply put, your primary target must be about the heart, soul, and values of the person you date. Focused first on the inside person, you of course will be drawn to someone for the chemistry, and that’s not just about physical beauty
Men often seek beauty first. The difficulty with that as a primary target is that you may be drawn in by a gorgeous woman who shares none of your life values and with whom you are incompatible. But if beauty if your first target, you’re going to date her, and dating leads to bonding. Next thing you know, you’re attached to a beautiful but unstable and/or incompatible woman.
Often women aim for financial wealth. It’s the wrong target because again, you may be drawn in by the power and success of the guy, neglecting the values side of the equation. Also, most successful men have an innate anxiety about being chosen for their wealth rather than for who they are. If you hook up with a wealthy guy and don’t really love him for who he is, you will both be unhappy.
Aim for love, joy, common values, and emotional compatibility. Trust that in so doing, you will naturally and easily meet someone whom you find irresistible in every way.
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