Where Are All the Great Guys to Date?
By Nina Atwood
The number one question that I hear from single women all over the world is this one. Who asks this question? The woman who hasn’t yet found the right man with whom to share a loving, committed relationship.
Where is the right person? If there were a place called “Boyfriends ‘R’ Us” where you could order up your ideal guy (height, weight, hair color, eye color, fitness, intelligence, etc.), don’t you think you would get over there in a hurry and start ordering? If there was a specific dating service, online or otherwise, or a specific arts group, or a specific group of any kind where single men hang out, or a specific bar, where you would be guaranteed to meet your soul mate, don’t you think you (and everyone else) would be there already?
The problem with the question is that it’s the wrong question to ask. That’s because there’s no answer to the question – the right guy for you isn’t “out there” in some specific place – online, or anywhere else. There is no “out there” when it comes to meeting good people to date. That’s because they are everywhere and yet they are nowhere. It’s kind of a zen thing.
The world is full of people (over six billion at last count) and roughly half of them are male. In this country alone, there are approximately 100 million singles, half of them male. Of that population a certain percentage are emotionally available and ready to commit, and of that population a certain percentage are right for you!
How do you meet them? I don’t know; no one knows how, yet women meet and marry good men every day. It’s one of the confounding mysteries of life to which no one has the solution, and if they tell you they have the answer they are selling you snake oil.
Someone once said that the quality of our answers in life depends on the quality of the questions we ask. So let’s have a far better question than this one to deal with the issue of meeting your soul mate. The real question is two part: 1. How do I prepare myself to attract the right kind of people to date?, and 2. What actions do I need to take in order to maximize the odds of meeting someone?
As you explore the answers to these questions, you discover that finding great guys to date, leading you to the right guy, is always an inside job. When you are emotionally available and ready; when you are clear about your negotiables and your deal-breakers; when you are clear about your values and the character of the man you want; then and only then will you attract someone really right for you.
When you are ready on the inside, and you combine that with right action – getting out, meeting people, joining online dating services, etc. – the universe (God) responds! It’s not magic and the path is different for everyone, like a fingerprint. But one thing I know for sure is that it works.
For more on how to prepare on the inside and manage the dating process so you land a truly great guy who is into you, get Temptations of the Single Girl today!
Entry Filed under: Advice for Women,Dating
