The Banquet: What to Hold Out For
By Nina Atwood
Instead of crumbs, hold out for the banquet – someone who’s emotionally mature and stable, and whose behavior reflects it:
- On time for dates, ready to go!
- Excited and enthusiastic about being with you!
- Eager to share and be emotionally vulnerable; i.e., sharing life dreams, values, and goals
- Drinks socially or not at all; no drugs
- Responsible in life – has a good job, saves money, lives within means
- Wants what you want – a loving relationship leading to a lifelong commitment
- Makes an investment in pursuing a relationship with you!
Now the tough question: are YOU a banquet for someone you meet? If not, take a hard look in the mirror first and clean up your act (get out of debt, fix your career, stop drinking, give up pot, go back to school, develop good dating behavior, get some therapy, exercise and eat healthy, etc.). This will give you the self-esteem to reach out with confidence to high quality people.
Entry Filed under: Dating,Personal Growth
1 Comment
1. ceci | June 18th, 2007 at 3:39 pm
the banquet article was great. we all have expections of others. do we have the same things to bring to the tabe? it is not a matter of lowering our standards, but can we fill the plate as well!!