Are You Addicted to Drama? (Part One)
By Nina Atwood
Harry dates women with problems, big problems. Katie was bulemic and had a drinking problem. He tried to help her in every way possible, but she dumped him for another guy after eight months. Then there was Melinda, who lost her job but maintained her lifestyle through credit card debt. After bailing her out multiple times financially, thinking they were in a committed relationship, he was stunned to see her at a bar one night hanging all over some other guy. That night, the text messages and phone calls flew furiously for hours, many of them abusive exchanges that did a great deal of damage.
Harry’s friends and family tell him to get away from the “crazy women” he dates, but he feels compelled to continue in the same pattern. He feels bored with stable women. He’s magnetically attracted to the most chaotic woman in the room, who usually happens to be the most physically attractive. Choosing beauty without taking time to assess character has cost him tens of thousands of dollars and untold heartache. Harry is addicted to drama.
What about you? Are you drawn to chaotic, unstable people? Do you sacrifice your values on the altar of chemistry? Do you feel compelled to help people who aren’t taking responsibility for the problems in their lives? Do you create unnecessary drama in your life by choosing chaotic people or by creating chaos yourself? See tomorrow’s SinglesCoach blog for a checklist of behaviors and solutions.
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