Turning on the Power of Attraction: Step 1
By Nina Atwood
Let go of the end result. Paradoxically, if you want to be successful in dating, you must desire a good relationship while simultaneously having no attachment to if or when it will happen.
The key is this: your intention is to have a loving, healthy, balanced relationship. That means a relationship that is good for both people in it, you and the other person as well! Creating a good, loving, lasting relationship takes a great deal more than initial attraction. It takes emotional intelligence and maturity. It also means that as you date, you pay attention logically to the patterns that are developing. You steer away from unhealthy patterns and aim for healthy ones. This means that you will let go of the wrong people and keep moving forward. To do that, you must remain a little detached in the earliest stage of a new relationship, thus empowering yourself to be able to let go if it’s not right. You’re realistic in your assessment of relationships, yet you are open-hearted, able and willing to love and be loved.
You manage your anxiety about your life: how old you are, the future, whether or not you will have children, and so on. You recognize the real priority: the right relationship. You acknowledge that you don’t have ultimate control over the timing. You make that okay by focusing on other areas of fulfillment in your life, trusting that when the time is right, you will meet your soul mate.
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1. Mark | January 9th, 2007 at 11:06 am
Solid advice; I find that my challenge is being aware that I’m making unhealthy choices…that’s how trusted friends who are well balanced have make a real difference.