They’re Not Right For Me
By Nina Atwood
Karen wastes too much of her heart, energy, and time trying to figure out how to be right for the guys she dates. Sure, some of those guys are attractive and successful, but that doesn’t mean they’re right for her.
A woman who knows her worth simply doesn’t focus on how to bend herself into the right shaped pretzel so that a guy will love her, no matter how charming, good looking, and successful he is. A woman who knows her worth is confident being herself, trusting that the right guy will see her worth, will “get” her, and will work his butt off to win her heart.
The reality of Karen’s former boyfriends is that they weren’t right for her. How do we know that? Because they didn’t see her for who she is and make it their job to pursue her.
It’s really a two-part dynamic: 1.) He has to possess the right qualities to offer a great relationship (i.e., he has good values, he genuinely likes women and treats them with respect and care, and he wants the same things out of life). 2.) He has to see YOU, the special woman in front of him, with plenty of WOW factor (i.e., “She’s fabulous – I only hope I can capture her attention and her heart!”).
Knowing who you are and what you want, then dating to find someone who “gets” you and wants what you want: that will get you a soul mate; that will get you a lifetime of love.
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