I Don’t Have Time to Date
By Nina Atwood
Sheila complained often to her friends, “I don’t have time to date! Between my career, my friendships, and my family obligations, there’s nothing left over.” She isn’t the only one with this battle cry. Like most singles, Sheila has filled every available minute of her life with activity. Not a bad thing, but it begs the next question.
What are your life priorities? If you really want a relationship, want to be with a soul mate, maybe happily married with children, then you must arrange your life priorities to allow it to happen. The following exercise is valuable to do on a regular basis:
Sit down with notebook and pen and first write down all the things you did and focused on in the past month. Everything. When your list is finished, go back and put a star by the items that you found were the highest in life value. Now put all those items in a list.
Next, ask what else you want in the list and list those things (future priorities). Now look at your list and put a star by the things that mean the most to you in the long-term picture of your life. Ask yourself, “When I look back at my life at the end, what do I want to see? Where do I want to see that I invested?”
Now you are beginning to get a handle on your real priorities. Make sure that you’re not leaving dating and relationships off the list just because you’ve been hurt in the past. Getting burned is no reason to quit. It’s a reason to learn, grow, and move forward.
Entry Filed under: Dating,Personal Growth
