Do Men Go For Looks?
By Nina Atwood
A recent study seemed to confirm that men choose women as mates based primarily on looks. The study was done in a speed dating venue, looked at the choices of 26 men and 20 women, ranging in age from 26 to early 40s. Men were surveyed prior to the speed dating game and their stated preferences were compared to their actual choices. The conclusion: though they stated they were looking for women with certain characteristics, they actually chose primarily based on physical beauty. No surprise there.
But what are we to conclude from this study? One obvious conclusion is that in a speed dating venue that requires men to make a choice in a short period of time, beautiful women get chosen more often. But what are they chosen for?
In a speed dating venue, men choose women for another date. They aren’t choosing for a lifetime relationship, just for another date. That’s it.
Of course, if you don’t get to the next date, it’s kind of tough to get to a lifetime relationship. That next date is your doorway to more exploration, but there are certainly no guarantees. So maybe the conclusion for women is this: if you take good care of yourself – diet, exercise, up to date hair and clothes – you stand a better chance of getting to that next date.
But at the end of the day, couples get together because of mental, emotional, and spiritual chemistry. They stay together happily because of shared values and a common vision for life PLUS the all-important daily actions that maintain a loving connection.
Entry Filed under: Advice for Women,Relationships
