Dating Behavior for Guys: When Not to Kiss
By Nina Atwood
Kissing for the first time is a significant step in a relationship. I don’t mean the lip peck or the cheek peck; I mean full-blown, lips and tongues, passionate kissing, the kind that melts paint. Guys need to know when the timing is right for that first kiss, and the precussor to right timing is doing a personal inventory.
First, what is your goal? Are you dating women just to score some physical intimacy? Are you dating to get laid? If so, I don’t have any advice for you except this: look at the big picture of your life and ask yourself where this behavior will get you. If you don’t like what you see in five to ten years, re-think your plan. My experience is that dating to use people sexually gets you shallow relationships that subtract from the quality of your life, including your self-estesem.
Second, what is the probability that the woman you’re with now could be “the one”? If you’re feeling “yeah, she could be the future Mrs. [your last name]!” then great! Now all you have to do is wait for that right timing.
If you’re feeling “um, no, I can’t see myself spending my life with this woman” for WHATEVER reason, then stop yourself from going to the next level of intimacy. Passionate kissing creates a deeper connection and that often leads to a relationship. But if you felt at the get-go that she probably wasn’t “the one,” odds are you’ll still feel that way six months later, only now you’re trying to figure out how to get out of it while she’s trying to figure out how to get you to propose. This is a formula for wasted time and emotional energy.
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