Power of Attraction Part 1: What do you really want?
By Nina Atwood
The power of attraction is immeasurable. Though it may seem relationships are random, in reality we are constantly sending out the energy of attraction and that draws certain people in while keeping other people away. The problem is that we don’t stop and calibrate the mechanism of attraction so that we can draw in what we really want. The first step is to determine exactly that.
Let’s start with what you don’t want: anger, manipulation, neediness, fear of commitment, chaos, addiction, abuse, neglect, incompatibility, infidelity, emotional disconnection, dishonesty, or bottom line, lack of love. Great. Now that you know what you don’t want, it’s time to take it a step further. In fact, if you don’t take it a step further, your focus will be on this list, and the “law of attraction” says that this is what you will get more of. Our brains need a focus, and our focus sends out the energy that brings in more of what we focus on. So, the next step is to give your brain a much better focus than this list.
Start with values. List your core values in life and how they manifest in a relationship. Then, put them into present tense sentences. Examples:
- Honesty and integrity. I am sharing my life with someone who is honest and who lives his/her life with integrity just as I do mine.
- Love and connection. We enjoy a loving, harmonious connection that we are grateful for and celebrate each day.
- Commitment. My soul mate and I are in it for the long haul. We work through problems and issues easily and gracefully, respecting each other in our interactions and diligently searching for solutions.
Get the picture? Now, work on yours. In my next blog post we’ll look at how to put it together.
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